Here’s my article on marriage.com:
Sometimes our lives can feel very mundane and cyclical. We go through the same things day after day. Same problems and frustrations. Same traffic. Same job. We can begin to lose hope, feeling that there isn’t anything more to life than what we see in the now.
So, how do we break out of this cycle? Start by returning back to the passions, desires, and dreams that God had placed in your life. These could even be things that had laid dormant in your life for years, or things you’ve placed on the “shelf” as you progressed in the busyness of life. Is it starting up that business that you’ve always wanted to do? Returning back to school for a degree? Finding a partner? Learning to play a particular instrument? Whatever it is, these dreams are placed in you for a specific reason and purpose.
Take that first step of faith to begin moving forward into what He has called you to do. Begin talking about your dream again. Do some research on it. Write out a plan. Don’t let fear hold you back anymore, as fear is only “False Evidence Appearing Real.” And as you take your faith steps forward, God will guide you along the journey.
“For I am the LORD your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.” (Isaiah 41:13)
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
I attended a marriage conference last year through www.unitedmarriage.org with my spouse. The one thing that really stood out for me that I learned is the term “married singles.” What that means is that although each spouse may be engaged in different activities or hobbies that are “good,” it actually can drive a couple apart from each other. You can easily live parallel lives that never meet together.
In placing value on your marriage, I’ve learned that it becomes important to place value on the activities and interests of your spouse. Although it may not be “your thing,” if its important to your spouse, it should become important to you too.
Last year, my spouse partnered up with my pastor and opened up a cafe. Although I viewed it as “his thing” at first, I had to make an attitude adjustment to see it as “our thing.” I sacrificed much of my time to help make and pass out flyers, hire staff, and even wash dishes. In honoring my spouse with my efforts, I felt I also honored the Lord.
How can you connect with your spouse today?
“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” (Matthew 6:21)
When the Japan earthquakes and tsunami hit, I couldn’t help but have my eyes glued on the tv. The horrific images of rushing waters wiping out villages, nuclear explosions waiting to happen, buildings collapsing down…I was in disbelief on what I was seeing. But, I couldn’t peel away from it.
As adults, we can so easily get consumed with all these images. Unfortunately, just a few feet away, our kids are also watching these images. And as adults being overwhelmed by everything we are seeing, imagine what is going on in our kids’ minds. Fear can easily build up in their little hearts, worry and anxiety can build up in their simple minds.
As parents, we have a responsibility to also help our children process through traumatic events. Here are a few tips that can help you:
1. Limit and discuss media images with your child. Don’t let them be alone through all of it.
2. Tell them about positive things that are happening. Share about the rescues and heroes.
3. Encourage them to ask questions. This can create a positive and educational dialogue.
4. Educate yourself. Know what is developmentally appropriate to share with your child.
For more information and tips on what to share with your children after traumatic events, you can access free info online at www.nctsn.org.
Proverbs 22:6 says to “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”